Julian Hollis — author of a new evidence-built series on attachment and relationships
Out now · The first book in The Relationship Series
Attachment and relationship books for the patterns keeping you stuck, or the person you love
Understand situationships, mixed signals, relationship anxiety, avoidant partners and how to build a secure relationship — whether you're living the pattern or loving the person who is. Research, practical frameworks, and the exact words to use next.
I'm stuck in…
How these books work
A whole book on the pattern you're living.
Inside the pattern
Every chapter is about your style — written to be read from the inside. Not a verdict, but a map of what's happening, and why.
Depth that holds
A five-part journey, a Decoder at the end of every chapter, and the real questions readers ask — answered in plain language, all the way through.
Tools for the moment
What to actually do during activation, conflict, silence and withdrawal — situation by situation, not theory.
The relationship you're in
Written for two readers at once — the one living the pattern and the one who loves them — and honest about boundaries, including when to walk away.
Start here.
One book is out now — the complete guide to undefined relationships. New titles will follow; join the list below to hear about each one first.
Explore the situationship bookThe evidence promise
Every claim in these books is labelled by its evidence strength — peer-reviewed, strongly inferred, or original framework — so you always know what you're standing on.
The dual-audience promise
Each book is written for two readers at once: the person living the pattern, and the person trying to love them through it.
The coverage promise
610 real questions answered across the catalogue — the questions people actually type into search bars at 2am, printed in each book and answered in the text.
Out now · Also by Julian Hollis
The Relationship Series
The same method, turned on the questions that come before the pattern is named — dating, situationships, and how to read what's in front of you. The first title is out now, with the full collection to follow.
Read the first chapter · From the published edition
Chapter 1 — The Relationship Without the Rights
The opening chapter of Why You're Still in the Situationship, exactly as it appears in the book.
That's the opening chapter.
The five profiles, the instruments, the Script Library and the way out are all in the book.
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Julian Hollis writes on attachment and relationship patterns, pairing peer-reviewed research with composite real-world vignettes drawn from years of observing these patterns.
The work grew out of a simple frustration: understanding the inner world of insecure attachment is one thing, and getting real tools to change it is another — and you rarely get both in one place. So these books do both — the pattern explained from the inside, and a realistic path through it.
Every book is written for two readers at once — the person living the pattern and the person trying to love them through it. The chapters answer both readers' questions side by side, the Decoders at every chapter end translate behaviour for the partner without shaming the person behaving, and the Letters Interludes let each style speak for itself, in its own voice, without interruption.
The method
Every claim is labelled by its evidence strength — peer-reviewed, strongly inferred, or original framework — so you always know what you're standing on. Where the research is direct, it's cited; where it's converging inference, it's flagged; where a framework is original, it says so, openly, and invites you to test it against your own experience. Across the catalogue that means hundreds of peer-reviewed sources, each book's claims traceable, and not one composited story passed off as a case file.
The books
The catalogue opens with the Relationship Series — a growing collection — with the Attachment Series to follow.
- Why You're Still in the Situationship — out now. For the relationship that has no name and no direction: the psychology of why you're stuck, and the exact words to get clarity.
- The Attachment Series — a new title arrives in August 2026, with the full series to follow; join the list to be first to hear.
Questions & answers
Attachment, dating, and relationships — explained. And which book you need.
Start with what's out now.
Why You're Still in the Situationship is live — and new titles are in production.
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