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What is your attachment style?

Eight quick questions about ordinary moments — a slow reply, a close weekend, an argument. Your answers will lean toward one of four ways people tend to behave in love: watching closely for signs of being left (anxious), needing space when things get close (dismissive-avoidant), wanting closeness and fearing it at the same time (fearful-avoidant), or feeling steady with both (secure). Answer for yourself, or for someone you love. At the end you get the pattern your answers point to, the book written for it, a second read for the other side of it, and a free article to start with.

Not a diagnosis: an indication of a pattern, based only on your answers. For an accurate picture of your own situation, talk to a qualified therapist.

How the quiz works

Researchers describe adult attachment along two dials rather than in boxes: how much you watch for signs of being left (they call it attachment anxiety) and how much getting close feels like pressure (attachment avoidance). Each answer nudges one or both dials a little. High on both leans fearful-avoidant; high on the first alone leans anxious; high on the second alone leans dismissive-avoidant; low on both leans secure. The second book you are shown is the stronger of the two dials, which is why a fearful-avoidant result might point to The Anxious Attached or The Dismissive Avoidant as its companion.

Eight questions cannot capture a person. They can show a lean, and a lean is a good place to start reading. If you would rather browse, the questions people actually ask and the which-book guide get you to the same place.